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Old 07-05-2018, 05:06 PM
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Help! Iím totally unqualified to be a dad!! (The next palace fan development)

Ok, so here we are! It’s confirmed, my girlfriend is pregnant and said it’s mine every time I’ve asked

Not the end of the world I suppose, together years, decent job, both mid 30’s and both agreed at our age we’d rather spend the money on house, baby, car, holidays etc rather than blow a life changing amount on a wedding until it’s spare.

Not planned, just we’re mid 30s, utterly assured it will take “at least a year or so” after long term on the pill. 6/7 weeks ago we stopped being careful in preparation for our last year(s) of freedom. Hmmmmmm

So here I am. My girlfriend is my world, that’s ok and she’ll be a great mum. I.... have no ******* idea! An only child, the youngest of my family, sadly a tough few years mean my nearest surviving relative is my cousin and she’s 500 miles away!

I’m inexperienced ans terrified of kids. They seem to like me but that’s either due to being on a par in maturity or smelling my fear. I don’t know what to expect, what to do........ bricking it!

This is the next generation of palace fan so here i am. I’d appreciate anything you’ve got from experiences. Funny stories, advice, stuff that surprised you. Things you really enjoyed that you didn’t see coming... things you really didn’t like... stuff you wish you knew. People always say, regardless of how hard it is, no regrets, best thing ever etc... all I can see now is a non stop job that takes every penny! And nappies
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Being a dad is life changing but wouldn't swap it for the world. Good luck and congratulations.
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Congratulations! No kids myself (although I suspect they're not far away) so I can't offer any advice. I'm hoping you keep this thread updated so I can learn from your mistakes Good luck!
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Old 07-05-2018, 05:14 PM
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Congratulations! No kids myself (although I suspect they're not far away) so I can't offer any advice. I'm hoping you keep this thread updated so I can learn from your mistakes Good luck!
Feels like that will be a LONG thread! Haha
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Congratulations.

What youíre feeling at the moment is entirely natural. If you care this much youíll be a great Dad.

Not sure itís entirely fair to burden your newborn with being a Palace fan although it will certainly imbue the child with a keen sense of humour.
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Old 07-05-2018, 05:30 PM
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Wing it. Everyone else does.
Good luck, it gets easier by the 3rd one.
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Old 07-05-2018, 05:31 PM
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Congratulations!

"Special" people like Worksop and SC seem to have coped OK looking after their wives' children so I'm sure you will do an excellent job with yours.
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Congratulations bigend1!

The only advice I can think of is to take every opportunity to have a quick kip in the first couple of years, but give your Mrs the option to first. Also read a story every night, there's something calming about that for both of you (although you will feel like a bit of a pratt trying to do the voices first of all). The rest will come naturally.
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In the pursuit of happyness he says something about the most important thing in his life is that he wants to be a good Dad. I kept that in mind. You wont alway be the perfect parent but if you can at least try to be a good Dad then that's a good start.
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You're at a great age to be a parent and sounds like you have a good setup for looking after a small human. Congrats.
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Just remember they never get easier.... I used to think the baby years were going to be tough but they are a doddle.
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Congratulations and make sure your child supports the Palace.
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Congrats.

Maybe bear in mind that none of us are ‘qualified’ to be parents, we all just make it up as we go along.

And you’re not suddenly going to have to deal with a child, you start with a baby! This is initially terrifying as they seem fragile, but they want food, warmth and love etc. Within a few weeks of steep learning curve, you’ll be a pro. And then you can’t wait for the personality’s to develop and to have more interaction and chat.

Being a parent is easily the best thing I’ve done and when I shuffle off, I won’t be saying I wish I’d spent more time at work etc.....work is ultimately forgotten, but family is forever.
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Oh, and good shot by the way!! Congratulations!!
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I'm 32 with 4 kids, the eldest closing in on 12 years old.

People will often remark to you that you should cherish them while they are young and it is so ******* true.

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Enjoy, the first 6 weeks is really tough but after that it is a joy to see them change each day. My kids are 6 and 8 now and love being with them even if my 8 year old boy wonít stop talking!! 😂
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